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Hi there,
I have been searching for answers for a while now, my dearest Mum passed away in may 06, on quite a few occasions i have had some rather strange things taking place, lights flickering when entering a room, this happened only the once, but often i have woken in the night to feel movement next to me while asleep, although this movement really does wake me up, it always seems to come from behind me, i have never seen anything, nore have i asked to please show yourself to me still a bit sceared i guess, on another occasion also while sleeping woke up to feel frozen stiff , but there was this brilliant pattern all over the wall and ceiling of the room, i was visiting in South Africa at the time, is where my Mum and Dad and family have lived, please could you help me with some of what i am experiencing,
looking forward to hearing from you
Heather
Dear Heather,
It sounds like someone on the other side may be trying to contact you, maybe your mum, maybe someone else. There's nothing to fear from it. Learn to meditate and be open to experience what lies beyond this dimension. Try journaling after meditating, after waking from a dream... patterns will emerge and begin to make sense over time.
Peace & Joy!
Diane
Dear Diane,
First, I wanted to say that I love your site, it has a lot of informative information and I go there often. I personally haven't had an NDE or any type of paranormal experience, but I do believe in much of what is presented on your site. I wanted to ask your opinion on something - do you believe that animals have a similar afterlife, as humans do? Actually, now that I think of it, I guessÊI do have an experience regarding my deceased cat. On the day she was euthanized, because of advanced cancer, that night I was sitting in the kitchen in the dark, crying and grieving for her. While sitting there I heard a noise that sounded just like when she used to walk on the kitchen floor, when her claws would click against the floor. I imediately thought of her and wondered if she had made that sound, trying to let me know she was ok, or toÊexpress a final goodbye. I just wondered if you believe that animals have a spirit and that they in some form can communicate with their human loved ones? I would appreciate any input on this. Thanks.
Take Care,
Cindy
DearCindy,
I think you answered your own question... your cat came back to let you know she was OK.
Peace & Joy!
Diane
Dear Diane,
I felt compelled to write you, as I feel there is power in numbers and goodness will prevail. I read most of your website. I think it is stunning that you share yourself so beautifully.
My only child, a son, nineteen, died in May. I have been given so many gifts since he died that I hate to acknowledge how painful his absence is and yet it is. He is my heart. I talk out loud to him all the time and I pray for him. I know he hears me and he feels my love.
To go in to all of the things that have happened since he died would take a book. Suffice it to say that things I used to believe have become a KNOWING. There is quite a difference. There is one thing that my son told me after he passed on. I think this sums things up beautifully and I would ask if you use it, please quote him. He deserves the credit. He told me that "I am in the kingdom of the glorious state of my evolution." He is very wise. His name is Dustin Talley.
Bless you for helping people.
Sincerely,
Valerie
Dear Valerie,
Thank you for writing to me. I'm sad for the loss of your son but thrilled you are open to receiving his gifts. What joy when we continue to keep our loved ones as part of our lives. I'll be happy to post your email and quote Dustin if I use his response elsewhere.
Peace & Joy!
Diane
He was fine one minute, dead the next
yes i one of my sons died 4/25/03 and i just buried him. i have been to a many a funeral and never question anything about where or what happen to them from there but here i am, consumed with all these questions now. unsure what really there is beyond death.and it scares me to think that when my son died that thats all there is that hes just dead. i watched him at the funeral home and i know it must have just been my vision playing tricks on me. but i thought i saw him breathing. he didnt seem to be him he was so empty. i didnt feel like that body was him.he was just 17yrs old at home on this computer he was fine one minute and dead the next they said he had died of cardic arrest and were still waitting for the underlying causes of it if they can even find any. i really need to know if he is still alive some where else. is there more then just death. i miss him he robbed his life his future. i need understanding of something more.
cristina
Dear Cristina,
I'm so sorry for the loss of your son, what a great sadness and emptiness you must be experiencing. I hope you've read my near death experience story and those of others on my web site, and that they bring you some peace of mind that life continues after death and we will see each other again. Throughout human history, people have reported these kinds of experiences that point to an afterlife and there are millions of people alive today who are telling similar stories. Rather than think we are all crazy people, consider that the reason there are so many of us who came back to tell, is that God wants us to know that there is more to life than we've been led to believe by our physical senses. When you know you will see your loved ones again on the other side, when you know your loved ones are watching over you from the other side, when you know that death is merely stepping out of an old, worn out coat into the sunshine, then you know that death is only a temporary separation and that what goes on in this life is the most important thing one has to do while one is here.Your son is now one of your guardian angels, watching over the family and sending you love, and he will be there to greet each member of the family when it is their turn to return home. The body in the casket was no longer your son. It's highly likely he was there, but at your side trying to let you know he was still aware of everything that was going on, not dead in the box. The truth is your son did what he came into a physical body to do and left lessons behind for many people to learn. As you work through your grief, and it is an ongoing process, your son will be guiding in ways you won't be aware of at first but when you look back years later, you will see that you did what you did to honor his life and help others in ways you can't even begin to imagine right now.
I lost my 8 year old sister when I was 10 and my advice to any parent who loses a child is to remember that you have other children still living... don't let your grief shut them out. They don't know how to deal with their feelings either, help them by grieving as a family. Your son will hear your prayers and be there when you talk about him, sit in his room, look at his picture, have family gatherings. Continue to keep him as part of the family and you will get though this in a healthy way.
Peace & Joy!
Diane
Wasn't sure I believed in an afterlife
Hi Diane-
I was searching through the internet on after life experiences and found your web site and read about your experience. I can't tell you how emotional it made me.
My father just recently passed away and your experience gives me hope that he really is in a better place. I've been thinking a lot about the after life lately, and I wasn't sure if I believed in it. Thank you for sharing your experience on line, it has really helped me a lot.
I'm interested in your book.. Through The Tunnel so it would be nice to hear from you. Again, thank you for making my life a little easier.
-Danielle
Hi Danielle,
Thank you for writing. I'm grateful my site was helpful to your spiritual journey. Awakening to the reality of our true spiritual nature gives life here a whole new meaning.I'd be happy to answer any questions you have about Through the Tunnel.
Peace & Joy!
Diane
I just read about your NDE. It is extremely helpful to me. I recently lost my 22year old son, Terry, in a car accident.
I am sure he is fine and in a better place, but am always wondering if he can see and hear me. Does he still know who he is, what his name is ? I talk to him every day and am hopeful he hears me. Please let me know your opinion on this.
Thanks for talking about your experience It will help many many people I am sure.
Sandra
Dear Sandra,
I truly believe my experience was real and that we don't die, only our physical bodies die. We retain consciousness and personality on the other side, we meet up with our loved ones again-- indeed those who have gone before us are there to welcome us back home when we cross over. They can be around us, see us, hear us, but communication between dimensions is difficult. Your son hears what you say to him and is aware of what goes on in your life. He does have a life of his own on the other side but he will always hear you when you say his name, have loving thoughts about him, need to feel his presence. You haven't lost your son, his energy/consciousness is still with you and gives you the strength to honor the 22 years you had together. Bless your on your spiritual journey.
Peace & Joy!
Diane
Why hasn't my wife contacted me?
Since my wife Ariana died on November 4, 2003, I have been in agony. I am an agnostic and while I would love to believe in some sort of survival after death and a possible reunification with my Ariana, I can find no convincing evidence. I have read a lot of material about the NDE and OBE. My wife and I often discussed these matters and we agreed that whoever died first would make every effort to contact the other somehow. It has now been a month but there has been nothing. I am in agony because I want and need to believe I will see her again, but every day drags by and I can find no convincing reason to go on. If there is no afterlife then does it matter if I skip whatever years I have left and just end it? If there is an afterlife, then why doesn't she put me out of my misery by contacting me? If there is an afterlife and she showed me, then I could find the strength to go on.
Why does she not contact me?
Max
Dear Max,
Whenever people ask me this question, and many do, I tell them to go watch the movie "Ghost" and notice how hard it it is for Patrick Swazye's character to move the quarter. It takes a lot of energy to have an affect on the physical environment and it takes a soul a lot of practice to be able to make any kind of contact. Most of the time "contact" is extremely subtle, more of a sense of presence, a cool breeze, a whiff of perfume, the hair on one's arm stands up. We all want to see our loved one, to hear their voice, but that's not what we usually get. I would say the more two people practiced communicating telepathically or developing their higher senses before one crosses over, the more likely they are going to be able to maintain contact. Ariana may be trying to contact you but you can't hear her through the mental noises in your head. You can make it more likely to happen by learning to meditate, listening to the silence, watching the sunsets, listening to the wind blow, than by demanding she contact you so you know whether to go on with your life or not. You have her as a guide on the other side now and there are things you can accomplish together, just let her energy flow through you as your writing moves to a new level. You'll know she's there.
Bless you on your spiritual journey.
Peace & Joy!
Diane
my name is jason and i a pretty consicous person , meaning i like to wacth and absorb the world pretty close. i noticed through after life tales or stories theories etc, that there has been talk about higher vibrations when death happens this is about the 4 time its been mentioned or brought to my attenion and i not even trying to find info about it its just popping up in my lif, first throught this other web page that describes it as when we die we vibrate at a higher level, and this switches us over into different worlds of conciuosnessi got this from two web sites the one i can not remeber the other is afterlife knowledge you should check this web page out it close to your stories or even could give u more insite maybe, and the last thing that mwntioned it was this book that is about this old testment that gives 8 insites and at the end they mention vibrations its a fiction story but gives great theories and similarties to the things i been running in to i been running into so muuch latly i truely and believeing there is a purpose for everythingthat happens even the book talks about it, its called the Celtic prophecys or something like that if your interested i get the correct name but its amazing, thanks for your insite and knwledge on your experienced i will defently be taking thought to it
Dear Jason,
Thank you for sharing what you are learning. I'm familiar with Bruce's site on afterlife knowledge and I believe you mean The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield, both good information to ponder. Remember, the more you learn, the more questions you will have, so keep asking. A good way to think about vibrational levels is to use the example of water, ice and steam. The difference is in the vibration of the atoms and molecules based on temperature. A live human being would be similar to water, a dead body to ice, and the soul, steam.
Peace & Joy!
Diane
Who we will be with and what we will do there?
When I think of the afterlife, all I want to know is whether I will be with my husband who passed away June 1, 2002. What I wish for is to be with him forever as we promised we would be during his lifetime. What do you believe about who we will be with and what we will do there?
Nadine
Dear Nadine,
I believe we travel through time with the same group of people with whom we have strong love bonds. We are together on the other side and we occasionally reincarnate together to learn more life lessons for our soul growth. Learning doesn't stop on the other side and we apply what we learn during physical lifetimes. Life on the other side is very similar to life here, just without physical limitations. Not only will you and your husband be together again but you are not apart now... he is there whenever you think of him, talk to him, look at his picture, dream about him... he lovingly watches over you and will be there when you cross over.
Peace & Joy!
Diane
Dear Diane,
I have just come across your story on the internet. If only it could be that peaceful for everyone. I hope you have the time to read my story. My mother died on 3rd November this year after going through a horrible death. She fought all the way to the end. She had been ill for years and gradually deteriorated rapidly this year.
She had osteoporosis and emphysema and was aged 79 years of age. She couldn't walk and couldn't breathe without oxygen. Her last two weeks were a nightmare both for herself and for the family. She fought and fought until the very last second. She would take no food for 10 days and went without food and water for 3 days. The doctors could not believe her strength in fighting to stay.
I believe in life after death and I also believe the things you have said you saw in your story. In the last week of my Mothers life she was talking to people up on the ceiling. They must have been in two places as she all of a sudden would move her head quickly as if someone spoke from the other side of the room and she was listening to both or all of them. This was very hard for Mother to do because she really couldn't move that well at all. We think they were trying to convince her to come with them but she kept shaking her head and trying to say "No". She kept asking where her ex-husband went as if he just popped out of the room for a minute (he committed suicide in 1989).
She finally left this earth on 3rd November. (a black crow appeared at the bedroom window on the morning of the 3rd and looked right in) The thing that has worried me is that she wasn't my Mother in the last two days of her life if you can understand what I mean. Her whole face changed and I felt that I wasn't looking at my Mother, but a total stranger. Her eyes totally changed as well, they were open but appeared dead to me. All of a sudden a look of sheer horror would come over her face and she kept shaking her head and saying "no, no". It was as if she was seeing something absolutely terrifying. This went on for about two days.
I am trying to convince myself that she is ok now and at peace and out of pain but I can't forget the look on her face and keep asking myself "what did she see that terrified her so much?" She was talking to all sorts of people in the last few days of her life and kept saying "yes, ok" and nodding her head, but then that look of terror would come over her face and the fight would be on again. It wasn't just a scared look it was much more than that.
Have you ever heard of anything like this happening? Could you explain what it could be? The first time ever in my life I remember my Mother saying she loved me was on her deathbed a couple of days before she became unresponsive. The one thing I am glad about is that we were there when she died. I was holding her hand and am so glad that we were able to be around her at that time.
Thank you for your time. Your story has helped me to at least hope that she is now happy and at peace.
Sue
Dear Sue,
The reason I wrote my book, Through the Tunnel, was to help people become familiar with what is going on in their consciousness when they are in the dying process. Your Mother is perfect example of why it is important to know what is going on. Chances are there was something in your mother's life that you or anyone else may know nothing about that she had to deal with before she could let go. With a prolonged death, as people drift between conscious states, many experience a life review and are visited by predeceased loved ones who have come to help them make their transition. When we hold onto anger, resentment, bitterness, hate, guilt, greed, we end up fighting a battle for control at the end. How much easier death would be if we realized we have to let go of these things and ask for forgiveness before we die to ensure a peaceful death.
It is much easier to do these things while still alive than when we hold onto them and have to face them during our transition. I hope you will read the book to help you understand more about what your mother went through before she died, and to help yourself when your time comes. You also might get a lot out of Final Gifts by Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley, two hospice nurses, who wrote about their experiences with the dying who experienced the same kinds of things as your mother before death. But whatever she went through during her transition, she is at peace and happy now. The love you surrounded her with as she made her transition helped her in more ways than any of us can understand.
Peace & Joy!
Diane
Dear Diane,
Thank you for writing back so soon. I would love to read your book, Through the Tunnel, could you tell me who publishes it and I will see if I can get it in Australia. I would also like to get the other book you mentioned, Final Gifts and would also be pleased to know the publisher. I am glad that you say Mum was not the only one to experience this, it made me feel a lot better. I have a lot of guilt about my Father's passing in the 70's and would like to understand this as much as I can. I do hope they are available in Australia.
I felt so much better when I read your letter and think I can understand what Mum went through, regarding letting go. Thank you for helping me to understand. She did do the wrong thing by us and I am sure that if she had the time she would have put it right, but that is another story and if you have the time I would love to tell you about it.
The book you also mentioned, Final Gifts sounds very good. The palliative care nurses were so good and so kind and gentle it was unbelievable. I owe them so much for making Mum's final days as peaceful as possible. They are angels in disguise.
The only problem is I myself now am terrified of death. But I will get over it I suppose. Think it is just a stage I am going through as I know it is supposed to be beautiful. Think it is because I have seen Mum like she was, time will heal.
Thank you for taking the time to reply and I will see if I can find those books.
Sue
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